The Constellation of Who You’re Meant To Be w/Sylvia Bbela

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Well, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of Help Me See.

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Today, groundbreaking news.

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Sylvia Bella is here, and I haven't had a guest on the podcast in fucking forever, and there's a reason why I'm breaking that with Sylvia.

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She is just a magical, amazing human being that I have the privilege to have met in an amazing women's retreat.

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I'm also in a container with her, um, led by another facilitator, Steph Traska.

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And, um, Sylvia is a human design business mentor.

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And I just cannot wait to have this conversation.

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Thank you for being here, Sylvia.

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Um, how are you? Wow.

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What? so much for having me, um, doing well.

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I think, I think we all have been in this hibernation mode.

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Um, today the recording is February 10th and we're kind of still coming out of all of that.

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And we're just kind of figuring out like, Where, where can we look in to ourselves a little bit more? Where can we, um, start to find the answers within ourselves a little more instead of all this craziness that has been out in the world.

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And, um, you and I are so lucky to have this community of women that are always there to support us, to, um, cheer us on with our talents, our gifts.

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Uh, and not everybody has that.

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So.

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I think that's what it's all about for me with my human design business is allowing people to get that permission slip to live their lives really authentically the way that maybe you haven't even said out loud before or haven't admitted to yourself.

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Um, and so I think this is a big consequence of COVID and having that pause button on life.

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And everything starting to unravel and have the space to breathe and think about who we are and what we actually really want.

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I, you know, when I first started, when I first got laid off and started my own business, like, I remember I had a conversation with someone.

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They were like, Oh, you give, you give people permission to X, Y, Z.

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I don't know.

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At that point in time for me, That was such a trigger for me.

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And I felt so like, like, I don't, who am I to give someone permission to what, and now like living with it and through it and experiencing that from so many other people, that's exactly the word that I would use when I feel so like blessed and like, I can, exhale after being with someone.

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It's like they gave me permission.

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I didn't know I needed, didn't know what I was seeking, didn't, you know, it's just such a beautiful experience.

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And even coming out of that women's retreat, I almost didn't go because I was so anxious and I was having such crazy issues with my ear.

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I still am with my ear and just, I don't know, life.

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And then I just had this feeling that like, no, this is why you need to go even more.

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And coming out of that, it was really unique because during this, retreat, each person there facilitated a session and had their own unique contribution to it.

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And this was beautiful.

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And really, the common thread between all of us, I felt, was that everyone in their own way was really deeply, purely, and sincerely wanting to lead each woman back to themselves.

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in the most like foundational, liberating way.

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and really I w I would love to, before we even dive into our conversation, um, I hate to do the whole, tell us how you got here, but it's just so good.

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Like if you could share a little bit about how, what you were doing before and what was the switch that made you come over to human design and why you feel so strongly about it, I would love, I would love that.

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Absolutely.

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Um, kind of on that same theme, I think that I had blasted through all the shoulds in life.

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I have this unstoppable energy, this battery that just never stops.

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And so I was doing all the things on the list, right? Like going to school, graduating.

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I graduated college early.

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I got a career.

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I got promotions, blah, blah, blah.

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And even through COVID, like I had a little bit of a pause, but It was still like, no, I still need to get, I need to get to the next place.

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I need to create some kind of safety for myself.

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And so that's why even now I've shifted my language from motivation because motivation can be in lack and fear and need for safety, um, over to momentum.

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And so throughout that whole journey and moving up here to Cleveland, actually, um, I had pursued a promotion and I started to realize, Oh, I've made it.

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What now on paper I had, you know, done everything you needed to do, like been really successful.

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And, you know, the next step would be to try to find a partner and get married and like, check all those boxes.

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But I, my internal world was like falling apart and having been in project management, people management, logistics, sales, marketing, all these different types of roles that are, um, looking for that integration piece, that connecting piece.

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I was like, I know, I know that I can do this myself.

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I was just being squished into this tiny box and every day of my existence, I could not be fully 100 percent myself.

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And the position was great.

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It just was, the culture was not for me, unfortunately, like many companies.

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are, right? And so I knew that I had to get out and I started my own business, business consulting, doing virtual assistants, as well as, um, online business management, helping create structures and systems in the backend.

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And I have in my human design, such a way of collecting all of that knowledge and distilling it into something really digestible and actionable.

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And so I started realizing.

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I was forcing myself to create all this structure for myself in the way that I was creating it for other people.

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And that was actually boxing me in too.

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I started resenting the business that I had built for myself.

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And things were not flowing, things were not working.

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Um, and so, in taking that breath, To enjoy life and enjoy the summertime and enjoy just existing.

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I was really looking to be that person that was like floating down a creek and just forgetting about all the to do lists and all the structures and all the things I was supposed to do.

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And I started to realize, Oh, I've known about human design this whole time.

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And I was running up against all these blocks with my clients where I felt like they wanted to do something and wanted a deliverable, like a website or a system or software that made them feel like I'm running a real business.

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I'm a real business owner.

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And I personally came up against this block where I was like, I feel like that's not.

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What's best for you.

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That's not going to work with who you are.

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That's not going to work with your energy and how much you want to expend or your lifestyle.

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And so coming back to that process of building trust with the client, getting to know the client and then giving them what they really need in their business.

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I bridge that gap with human design and fully committed to that and got a certification, went through a program to learn all about it, start doing readings and then start mentoring business owners and still doing some business consulting, but still incorporating human design.

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Where the structure and this tool to learn deeply about yourself is your energy type, the way that you make decisions, the way that you interact with the world.

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Um, and also where your energy gets hijacked, where you get pulled around and can be influenced or conditioned a little bit more easily.

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And so applying that lens was just like putting on the glasses and I realized, Oh, I can get to know a client just like that.

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And now I can see it.

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This is how much energy you have in a day.

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We need to automate more of these processes on the backend.

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So all that you have to do is show up or you have a larger battery like I do.

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So you like to do manual labor.

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You like to, to build things for people and with people you like to collaborate.

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So let's structure your business that way.

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And creating these small shifts for people has been incredible because it is that deep sigh of relief of like, oh, I didn't know I could do it like this.

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Or, oh my gosh, you said something that I've had on my mind for years and I haven't even said it out loud.

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I get to exist this way? That's, that's the permission slip I needed.

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And so combining business consulting and structuring things with human design and incorporating more of my own human design, I started liberating myself and holding more, more potent space for my clients.

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And the things that weren't working just started dropping away.

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I mean, it was, it was incredible to watch and I knew exactly what was happening.

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Um, when we start shifting into this different version of ourselves, this, this more aligned version with ourselves with, um, the timeline that we want to happen, it can look a little scary where we're like, Oh my gosh, all the familiar things are gone.

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Or I don't even know myself anymore because I don't, I don't like the same things.

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I don't do the same things.

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Like who am I? And getting to.

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Use your human design as a blueprint for where you get to go, who you get to be, and then, um, enjoying the journey of that rediscovery of self.

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It's just like, it's not easy, but it is fun.

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It can be fun.

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It's so fascinating and it feels so fucked up to even be like, Oh, I'm allowed to exist like this.

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Like the way I am, there's nothing inherently deeply wrong with me.

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It's like this.

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Yeah, what we're saying before we hit record, this old world meets new world of like, wait, Wait a minute, like, there's so much momentum, like, in the way that it's been done for so long up until this point, and we're like, this is how this should be done, and if you struggle here, you know, it's because X, Y, Z, you said, like, my whole life, I've been thinking this about the way I am and like how human design is so healing that it helps that stuff fall away because it's it's not as inflated with like all this baggage it's like you've told yourself a story about yourself your whole life until now and then you read this insanely fucking crazy blueprint you get from putting in this information about yourself.

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I still don't understand.

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Like, I would like a little bit more of the background from you, because I actually have no idea, like science and this and that.

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But one of the biggest things was actually, and I've been aware of human design for a while, but it was only specifically through your website when I downloaded the thing and I redid it just now so I could go back to it.

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Um, One of the, and I self identified this as, through my, um, NLP training, like I did a, a neuro linguistic programming process and I got to this point where I realized how deeply, like, I associated fear with love, and I'm like, oh, that's the thing, that's my problem.

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I've used fear, like this whole time was because I'm programmed by my father, my overprotective father, blah, blah, blah.

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Okay, I see it and I see and I can open my heart to it and I understand that's how I see more deeply, okay, but still, it's a fucking problem.

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And then I did you, I did your, your thing on the website and my eyes almost fell out of my head because under motivation, It says, fear, and then it's, I clicked on it and it says, when you are in the right environment for you and you see the world as you are meant to do, you are driven by the right motivation, and in your case, it is fear.

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So the right motivation is fear for me, fear of the unknown.

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That's why you're driven to try to understand everything, to get to the bottom of things, to investigate, to go deeper, always looking to make sense of it all, to feel safe and secure.

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So I was like, Wait a minute.

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Mind blown.

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So that's not a defect? And, I thought I was already well on this human design train, where I'm like, I am, I am the way I'm supposed to be.

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I still thought fear was like, deeply, deeply wrong.

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wrong of me in me, what? It's one of those things that you, and I can go back to some of the, um, pieces of how everything comes together, but all of this goes so, so deeply.

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There's, there's all of these pieces that in my business consultant kind of way, feed in all this, uh, information to become more digestible so that we can on a day to day, um, learn to exist just as we are and enjoy the energy that we have access to all the time.

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But then there are all of these undercurrents and I kind of think about it, um, uh, as a short explanation with our profile, the, there's two numbers, which are Um, the first one being the conscious, I think about it like a movie, where everything is playing out and you see, you see yourself as the main character in the movie, you see yourself interacting with people, um, but you're going through chronologically and figuring it all out, and the plot happens as it happens, you can't technically skip ahead in your own movie, right, and so then there's the undercurrent, there's the unconscious, the, the second number in the profile, that is that That unconscious, you don't realize it's happening, but we, when we look at our human design, it's like we're sitting on the couch and we're watching the movie, and we're like, oh my gosh, I see all the themes, I see how the plot's playing out, I see why, like, what the director's trying to do here, and I understand now.

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All of these undercurrents that are playing into why this character, us, why this character is choosing bad friends over and over, the same type of person, or the same dating habits, or the same, oh yeah, I can save everybody, oh yeah, I'll put everything on my plate to save the day, and it doesn't matter what happens to me, and once we start to look at these pieces that are all laid out in front of us with our human design, it's like, I didn't realize that this was happening to me, and instead we get to start to reframe to this is happening for me, and how can I, especially with that unconscious profile, start to create some boundaries around how I get to interact with people and how I, for me, um, My unconscious is actually called the heretic or the savior, so I have this like save the day energy and I now get to create these boundaries around how I get to help you save the day or realize that I don't have to be the person that saves your day, I can help you save your own day.

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And so we start to realize all these things about ourselves and it is like, you know, Yes, the day to day energy, but it starts to unravel all of these, all of these things that we've said about ourselves.

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And I love, um, a session that I was actually in with Steph, where she described how all these little things over our life, where we maybe picked it up from someone else, or we said it to ourselves, like, you're stupid, you're not smart enough, whatever.

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We feel it energetically.

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Every single time we whisper it to ourselves, we feel it energetically and systematically in our body, in our nervous system, as if someone is screaming it in our face.

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And starting to unravel those little bits and being like, Oh, I'm motivated by fear, but that is what protects me.

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That is what creates a safe space for my brain.

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And how can I work with that? How can I, uh, use it in a higher expression instead of letting it rule my life in ways I didn't even understand? I, I really resonate with that, um, that example of how you're saying like, yeah, even if we're just whispering it to itself, our, ourself in that way, it energetically is like being screamed at in the face, because Steph and I were having that conversation about how, like, maybe it's not so hilarious to be like, just so anxious all the time and scared, haha, you know, I'm just an anxious person, continuing to deepen that neural pathway around, you know, what, you know, the lower expression of our truth.

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Because it is real.

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It's not like I'm I'm being with myself and feeling that in my body.

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So I don't want to be denying that.

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And I don't want to be, you know, gaslighting myself, but like, it's also okay, how can I, how can that serve me just in the way that you said, of course, trying to save the day all the time could be extremely draining.

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How do I play that? boundaries around how I get to do that because I love doing that.

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It is my, it's a craving of mine.

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It's like in me.

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And how do I do that in a way that's like self sustaining and preserving and energizing and not in a way that's going to like run me into the ground? An NLP, this, what you said, especially in the beginning, but right before.

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you made the switch to human design mentor filled full time.

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Um, we, we were basically taught that so many times when someone's coming to you, what they see to be the problem, it's the, it's a symptom and not in a dismissive way, but it's like, okay, you you're listening to what they're saying is like, this is the thing I have to fix.

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Like just what you said, the business owner is like, this is what I need.

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This is the thing.

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This will Solve it, but then you're like iceberg.

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Okay.

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Let me like this full picture so that I can really deeply Sustainably serve you rather than plug a hole, put a bandaid on that's just going to come undone later on.

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Um, and I think that this part of even when you said about your own human design, you said how you have the natural tendency to distill information into actionable steps.

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It's like being able to do that.

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For someone else whilst respecting their deeply strong and pure instincts, is a superpower.

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So I'm, I'm just so excited, that you are in this work now and it's such a testament to, I don't know, just being a clear channel and feeling that in your body and then like going out and just being that truth in the world.

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Oh my gosh.

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Beautifully said.

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The way that you say things is just so beautiful.

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Yeah, throw a couple F bombs in there.

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Just make sure you add some texture.

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Throw some spice on it.

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Oh my gosh.

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But it truly is.

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It's like that testament of, um, starting to realize and starting to own my human design.

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Oh my gosh.

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If you run your human design and you realize, oh, some of these things I thought were my mom or my coworker, I, oh my gosh, yeah, when I first ran my human design, just through like a free generator, and then, you know, six months later, when I first found it, Six months later, I finally got a real reading, but at first, I was looking at it.

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I was reading it and I was like, no, my coworkers are really good project manager.

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He's he's the one I was projecting all of these aspects of myself onto other people and appreciating other people instead of owning how powerful and how magnetic and how amazing I was, how good at my job.

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I was all of these things.

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I was like, Oh, it was just this, this bubble burst moment.

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And that's, I think, when I started to realize, oh, I get to, I get to branch off here.

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I get to make my own business because I am the one, just like maybe in a relationship where you had this honeymoon phase and you're like, oh my gosh, everything about them is so amazing.

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Oh my gosh, I can't live without them.

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Blah, blah, blah, blah.

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And then.

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Once you are disenchanted and you step away a little bit, you're like, Oh, I was the one that was making the thing amazing.

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I was the one making the relationship amazing with my energy and my power and being able to, uh, bring it to your awareness and start to ask these questions of like, okay, this is something that is a huge part of my chart.

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Why do I not believe that this is who I am, or what has been preventing me, or what have I taken in as conditioning that prevents me from believing that I get to be this powerful, or I, for example, um, as a generator, I have just endless energy, but at that job, I was lethargic, I felt Gross.

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I was just no energy for anything at the end of the day, especially that I was passionate about and I was just so, so heavy.

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So when I read, Oh yeah, you're this life force energy.

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You bring light to a room.

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I was like, man, I do not feel like that right now.

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Who is that girl? Because it is not me.

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And so it was that, that beginning of like, Oh man.

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My world is crumbling bit by bit away and I need to rediscover this energy that I need to rediscover these pieces about myself and what fortunately I get to do is instead of giving you like a giant PDF like 200 pages, you know, it's not about the quantity of information about it's about the quality and being able to break that down.

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So you can integrate it into your life.

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So you can take these actionable steps or have these small reframes because that's where the power is.

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It's in that day to day and realizing that you're shifting like constantly every single time and not holding on to pieces of our identity anymore and not making anything.

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And that's what's Me, I'm a socially anxious person, part of our identity, because it's not, it's just a quality, and um, of course we see this in, you know, psychology, and therapy, and a lot of these other different things that we experience in, in, um, daily life, and in the real world, as I could say, but all of this is giving us the permission slip to come back to who we really are and to separate ourselves from what we think we are rather than or who we should be rather than who we really are at the core and what we can do with all that potential once we get some more momentum in a different direction.

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One of the biggest things that I learned from, um, He was actually a fitness coach.

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she's said that we have all this momentum when we are on a bullet train or something like that.

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A train is going so, so fast and we have to slow it down and then stop it.

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And then slowly ramp back up and take it into another direction.

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It can't just stop on a dime and then immediately go in the other direction.

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And that's where we start to see, I think a lot of this like false urgency or this marketing pop up where we're like, I have the proven script and the proven strategy and blah, blah, blah, to get your business.

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And that, cause I'm like, what does that even mean for the exact human that I am? Exactly.

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And it's like these, these really, uh, quick get rich schemes or whatever.

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We have all of this, um, this marketing that starts to hijack us.

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Uh, and we'll see this in, like, our open energy centers, the white energy centers, where it's, like, pulling and poking at, Oh, well, you have trouble with your self worth? This is what I'm going to say to get you to buy this and solve your problems now.

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And it is that band aid.

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It is that, like, slugged hole.

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And us as practitioners, as space holders, as facilitators, as mentors and guides, it's our responsibility to, you know, To hold ourselves accountable to make sure that yes, we want like sustainable monthly revenue and try to predict our business and things like that.

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But it's about how do we serve each client to where they're at and in such a responsible way that they feel comfortable, they feel seen and held, and they don't feel like, you Squeeze or dependent on you as a coach or facilitator to keep buying more and more of your programs and become dependent instead of actually empowering and giving them the tools that they need to fully grow and like I was talking to someone the other day on a, on a consult and I was like, well, how do you, how do you hold them in the gap when they try to step away from you? She's like, I don't, they can end their relationship with me and they can come back when they want to.

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Yeah, girl, you're my type of person.

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People are on their own journey.

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And, um, Utilizing messaging and running your business in a responsible way goes way farther than trying to have this 10x, 30k a month, like all of these vanity metrics.

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Um, what's really important is being able to support people in a responsible and accountable way.

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Yeah, it requires such deep trust and conviction in like the exact work that you're doing that you're like, This is just the way it has to be.

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I remember the first time I worked with a coach that was very much like, it wasn't just a given that you could just enroll in the next thing.

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It was like, She very much spoke the elephant in the room of like if I'm doing my job, you don't need me, you want me, as like someone to bounce off of, it's not like this dependent, codependent thing.

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Hold on one second.

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Cashy baby, I really need you out of here, because you're distracting me in the background.

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Okay, I'll come out when I'm done, okay? I wish I could be one of those, one of those moms that like really doesn't care if there are kids in the room, but it's wildly distracting for me.

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Um, two things were coming up, uh, as you were just talking.

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Overwhelming energy leaks.

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It's like Immersing yourself in this level of self validation, self realization, self discovery, self expansion, self expression.

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It's like, it's so I remember when I learned about my human design.

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I was on a layover, a long layover, and I was I'd never been so happy to have like a big Block of time where I couldn't do anything and that was all I was doing because it just goes so deep and there's so much Unraveling that happens and then you get so thirsty and you're like, oh my god.

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I want to change everything right now But it's just it's hard and it's hard to integrate and really what you're saying practically apply this in the small places of your life so that these big currents can change and I think that Uh, I know we talked about this when we were at the retreat, but like how purposefully and intentionally you, you limit what you're sharing, not in a gatekeeper way, but in a way of like, I know if I fire hose this, like nothing's going to stick.

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It's so deep.

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And every little thing is so meaningful.

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And, um, uh, I, I totally wholeheartedly agree.

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I feel that way in my mentorship, like with, if I'm talking to photographers and, um, you know, with vision and all of that stuff.

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Um, And I think about how when you are stepping into this world and re remembering yourself in this way, plugs, even with, if you do nothing, even if you put no action plan, you're not doing anything with it.

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Just the knowing and the awareness of, oh, this is, Exactly who I am.

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And it's perfect.

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It stops all of these energy leaks there's just so much energy and time that goes into lashing ourselves for trying to do life a way that we're not meant to do it or shaming ourselves for what the fuck ever, you know, so it's just.

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Even if, even if you just get a reading and reacquaint yourself with yourself with no intention to do anything or to, to, to turn yourself into a business or whatever it is, just this awareness is like so incredibly healing.

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I completely agree.

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And it's like this.

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I love that you said that's not, it's not just for business.

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It's for everybody.

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It's for anybody who, wants to get to know themselves deeper and start to unravel and not everybody is ready to pull back that curtain on like all these different ways that they're creating their own chaos in their life and it can be, I mean, honestly, it's like world ending.

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For pulling back that curtain, taking the red pill, we watched The Matrix last night, and realizing, oh my gosh, I am the one that is allowing these things to happen to me.

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I was in a space, I was talking to somebody, and we talked about actual obstacles and perceived obstacles.

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Now, she worked from home.

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Mondays and Fridays and her position didn't start until 10 a.

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m.

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and so she was talking about how she can't get to the gym, she can't meal prep, she can't eat breakfast, and starting to name some of those things as actual obstacles and perceived obstacles.

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It's like, oh, Oh, I have a lot of flexibility, but I'm the one that's allowing other people to put things on my calendar to, um, be indispensable and be the only person who can handle a problem for people and always being available.

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And so once we start to identify these things, it is world ending because you literally can't go back to the way that it was before.

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And so, I, I mean, I encourage people who are looking for that, that sense of clarity to step forward with bravery because it is, it is that self development journey and as entrepreneurs, you can't hide from self development either.

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But it is that, it is that, um, that trust and knowing that you've been on the cusp for something.

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For some kind of change, some kind of transformation, like something is coming, not sure what it is, for a while, and having that bravery to, um, step up to the door that's leading you to the next chapter, to open it, to peek on what's on the other side, and these are all different phases that you go through, seeking to see what's on the other side, stepping through.

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Seeing everything that's on the other side and actually fully closing the door behind you, because especially your word and your wording of energy leaks, a lot of that happened for me and my business, just as a OBM and business consulting, it happened because I was wanting to walk through the door, but I had not fully closed it.

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My business coach called it like, you're leaving the door cracked.

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And all of this energy is just going out that door because I was allowing other people to say this is what I expect of you, even though it's not in my package, or, um, I don't know, there were some severe reminders of like, if you're not going to set your boundaries, people are going to blast through them, Sylvia.

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And I, unfortunately, suffered, like, was keeping myself from closing that door.

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And When we start to look at all of this, we get to see where, and that's where my like analytical mind starts to come in.

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Like we have these gaps, we have these pathways that are allowing us back into the old world, back into our old life.

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And how do we really pull ourselves forward and keep the energy? Um, not necessarily like high energy, but like keeping ourselves centered and grounded and ready for something bigger, something better for us.

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And allowing ourselves to reinterpret what that can mean for us, because I've taken like, I love how you just distilled it into like very specific, an example of something so mundane, like, oh, I don't get to do the meal prep or whatever, because I have to work, I started 10 and this, and it's perceived, like, I think about how I've always identified as like an extreme person, I'm either here, or I'm here, I'm working out every day or not for two years.

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And even with this.

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You know, journey into entrepreneurship that I did not intend to be a self growth situation.

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We never do.

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Nope, nope, nope.

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Um, I, I found myself like, okay, wanting to keep my work sacred, very much so, like not, uh, not putting the pressure of like, oh, this business will, business, art, whatever the hell, will provide for me, so I started freelancing, and I'm like, okay, this works because I, I travel one week.

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Uh, a month I get my own space.

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I'm, I'm, I'm a, I crave space.

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I like to be away.

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I'm like, okay, this is great.

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And then this feast or famine energy was really starting to wear on me.

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And I'm like, but this is, I'm a person who thrives on this or that.

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And this job is great because it's a title that's in my industry and it's work that is really fun for me.

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And the wages are great, but.

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Like this craving for feeling grounded and like rooted in my life and not I was feeling so flighty and so all over the place Now i've reinterpreted that reinterpreted that into I got a part time job.

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That is absolutely It's an office assistant job.

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I've never had a job like that.

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It's totally irrelevant So it's not taking up any of my creative energy at all.

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I'm working like every day Now I was doing split days, but I'm also like mornings or afternoons.

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But now the schedule has changed to where I have only like three full days and the other two are totally off because I'm someone, if I have an appointment at four o'clock in the afternoon, nothing happens that day.

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I'm like, I'm just, I can't, I can't focus.

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I don't know if that is it.

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Nothing can happen until four.

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And you're still late.

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Yes.

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So it's like, okay.

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Knowing this about myself.

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Okay.

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How can I, play with these levers because it's like a very different life.

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Like it's like, Oh, uh, traveling freelance art director, who's also doing your own business or office assistant who gets to feel grounded at home and also have that time and space for like, and there's still moments where I catch myself being like.

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What am I doing right now? Like, this is so strange, but it's just because it's been so deeply ingrained to where like, this makes sense, and this is your field, and this is this, this.

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Um, and yeah, it's just, it's funny because it's still the same idea.

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But it's a very different living of it and I like that and I know that it took me a long time to see that possibility and I love that you could be a mirror for someone and be like, okay, I'm seeing this and you could apply that same container structure wireframe of you in this way as well too.

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And how does that feel? It's so powerful.

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Like even the reframe of, um, this doesn't have to be my identity or excuse me, like your job doesn't have to be your identity anymore.

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Oh my gosh, how powerful because now you get to, um, utilize that energy in such a different way and be like, these are things that I'm really good at this, this job, or, um, say you have a nine to five and you want to do things in your off time to create this rich inner life or work on a business or just bring some kind of creation into existence.

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You get to start reframing that and be like, this is what I'm good at.

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I can put this on autopilot and then I get to save my energy for everything I'm excited about.

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And that goes, I mean.

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There's five different energy types, so everybody gets to interact with the world in a different way.

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But the bottom line is, like, you're not excited about it.

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What the heck are you doing? If things aren't, if things are feeling like you're clawing up the beach and the waves are like pulling you back out, then what is the point? Just flip over and let the waves wash over you, and you get to experience life even in a moment to moment basis in such a different way.

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Our reality changes, and Such a drastic way when we start to have these small, small reframes and give ourselves permission again.

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Hmm.

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And this just brings me to what we opened with when we first got on before we hit record.

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Uh, when you're like, if you're not enjoying yourself, if you're not like letting yourself be on that ride, what are we doing? We had come together talking about the emotional wave that we're all getting on right now.

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Um, want to just speak more to that.

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Absolutely.

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so there are 50 50 different people have different things, but when you look at a body graph, um, and human design is going to be on the right hand side and the little triangle that's pointing to the right before we do that, before we go into that, can you just high level human design, science and astrology and whatever.

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And then go into that because I feel like I need to absolutely frame up.

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No.

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And this is something that I, I like to be able to do with my content.

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So I'm actually doing a little series right now on some human design one on one, because I found when I first started doing sessions that.

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We have different kinds of brains, right? We have people who want to understand and be able to look at and see the same things that I'm seeing because I just show up.

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I just look at the chart and I'm like, Okay, I see this.

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I see this.

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I see this.

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And, um, being able to frame it.

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In a way that makes sense first, like give some logic and structure.

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So, um, with a little bit of the history of human design, it is what I would call a self discovery system that blends, ancient wisdom and, and modern science with all these different modalities to create this energetic blueprint where you get to kind of visualize what is going on with your soul.

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And so this is how you get to make decisions and interact with the world and really, Come back to your true self.

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It's not really like finding your true self.

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It's always coming home to yourself and finding this place where you feel safe and start to realize like, Oh, this is who I was all along.

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So it combines astrology.

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As well as the Chinese I Ching, and Kabbalah, as well as the chakra system.

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And so, with all of that, we also have quantum physics and genetics.

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And so, with all of these, you're seeing the body graph chart, and you'll see, on both sides, The astrological signs and placements and so you have all the energy centers of different shapes that create the, um, the body graph chart that have come from different chakra influences and how we have also evolved over the years.

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I mean, we started being, um, as beings.

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We were in tribes.

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We were focused on survival.

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We were focused on taking care of each other and we didn't have a lot of time to think about, you know, You know, the esoteric, we were like, all right, the saber tooth tiger is, is or is not going to kill me.

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Like, what can we do about that? And so over time, we've created more safety, more, um, abstract ideas and creations and innovations.

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And so as a result, we've had more and more access to ourselves.

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And so we see in our charts, nine different energy centers.

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And then all of these little gates, these numbers inside, um, correspond to the astrology.

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And we also have the connections, which are like, if we think of this like a blueprint, a map of a house.

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We have all the rooms that have different themes, the shapes, the energy centers.

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We have lights on in those rooms or off.

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We like lights.

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We don't use the big light though.

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And we also have the circuitry, which is like electric plumbing and AC that connects it all together.

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And so all the little circuits, all the lines that connect in different ways are, um, with different energies and we get to Get around other people and start to influence them with our auric bodies with the energy that we carry around with us all the time.

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And so that's why sometimes when someone comes into a room, you can feel it before you even turned around because you felt their presence.

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And so, with this blueprint, with this map of our inner sanctuary, We get to start to understand the influences and the energy that we have access to all the time, how we get to structure our days and our lives and utilize that energy to ration it towards different things that we have natural, uh, strengths for.

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And we get to, um, plug in to other people, so to speak.

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And I like to say color each other in with these open energy centers that are white.

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We get around another person, we kind of plug in, and we start to color each other and we get to have more access to ourselves.

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So, with all of that, let's see.

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One of those rooms with the emotional wave that I started to speak about is the solar plexus.

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And traditionally, in the chakra system, Um, I believe it's the fourth down.

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Um, you might have heard it or use it in a meditation that talking about your confidence, your inner light, your strength.

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And we think of it as, um, being in the opening of your rib cage.

334
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And what this is, is your emotional body.

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This is, um, the atmosphere, moods, feelings that we are impacted with all the time.

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And so.

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With any of the energy centers, but especially with the emotional energy center of the solar plexus, we are, um, 50, 50 colored in or not.

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And it's kind of like, I think of it like when you go to the mall and everybody's there, the lights are on, there's music playing, there's people talking, screaming, whatever, coming from all the different stores, right? You go watch a movie and you come back.

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And everything is off and every step you take, every swish of your jacket, when someone speaks out or yells, it starts to echo around.

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And so some people for the solar plexus, when you have it colored in, you have this emotional wave like songs playing in the background, like the soundtrack of your life, where you've got maybe on the high part of the way, if you've got some peppy music on the low part of the wave, you've got some bluesy music in the middle.

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is like elevator music.

342
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It's just neutral.

343
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And so all of us are experiencing some level of this all of the time, except when you don't have this colored in, you have silence in the background.

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You don't have this song playing in the background.

345
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And so when someone comes into that empty mall and starts blaring their beatbox, you're like, Oh my God, please turn it down.

346
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Why are you so irritated from work? So angry at me.

347
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Why are you so sad? And what we're doing here, when you have an open energy center for the emotional solar plexus is you're feeling this amplified version of somebody else's emotions.

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And.

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This can either show up in two different ways, where you try to numb out all of that big energy, because the person who brought it to you, they feel that on a five.

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Maybe they are irritated from work they got home, they feel that emotion on a five.

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But you, Um, with it not colored in, feel it at a 10 because it's amplified.

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It's echoing around the mall.

353
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And so you can either try to numb that out and calm it down and try not to feel everyone's feelings as much because you don't know how to, um.

354
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cleanse it out of your system, how to dump out somebody else's emotions, or you are the one that people are like, why are you so dramatic? Why are you so sensitive? Blah, blah, blah.

355
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You're like, I feel like everybody's emotions all the time, all at once.

356
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I'm like a sponge.

357
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And so this emotional wave, we feel this in three different ways.

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We'll see this when people have the center defined.

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We'll see it in individual.

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The individual wave, the tribal wave, and the collective wave, and each one is shaped a little bit differently.

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Now, for.

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An example of myself, I'm on the collective wave, and so it's pretty smooth, it's still got the ups and downs, but as a person who needs to make my decisions that way, I have to make sure that someone isn't catching me on my high part of the wave.

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Oh my gosh, you want to come to this party next weekend? You want to do this? You want to buy that? Oh yes, I'm super excited right now! And then the time comes.

364
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And I didn't make the decision from a neutral place.

365
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I'm like, who was I to think that I would have the energy for that? Why did I buy this thing? Oh, I was really excited and they sold it to me.

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And so this is where we can enter the conversation, um, at a different time.

367
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But this is starts the conversation of how we get hijacked.

368
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A little bit from these open energy centers and people starting to color us in I think of them like a cup where we've got an empty cup and you're like, I want something to drink and society says, Okay, let me get me something and you're kind of thinking, I think I want some coffee to drink.

369
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That would be cool.

370
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That feels like what I want.

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And society goes, Oh, you want some orange juice? You're like, wait, no, that's gross.

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And you have to go dump that out and rinse it out.

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You're like, okay, something else to drink, please.

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And conditioning goes, you want cranberry juice? You're like, no, but I don't know the word for coffee yet.

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And so you have to go dump that out.

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And it's this process of.

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Just dumping things out and rinsing them out until you start to realize what you really want in your cup.

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So that you can fill yourself up and come back to that energy of, No, I can't be sold anything.

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I can't be hijacked.

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I know these tools and I know my human design to come back to who I am.

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Instead of drinking the orange juice just because it was there in my cup.

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Just because someone else gave it to me and I had nothing before.

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I'll accept it.

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Oh my God.

385
00:48:03,140.1317353 --> 00:48:09,530.1317353
The way you said, I want coffee, but I don't know the word for coffee yet.

386
00:48:10,630.1317353 --> 00:48:15,30.1307353
I'm it's so true because that's where we can get so squirreled up.

387
00:48:15,30.1317353 --> 00:48:21,660.0317353
Cause it's like, you don't feel this acute feeling of like betraying yourself or like, because you don't even know what you're doing.

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You're like, Oh, I don't have the words though for what I do want.

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So like, you kind of can force yourself to be more open to things that you know, that you don't, it's not for you, but you're also like, I don't know a better solution, but like having the confidence and like that, uh, that inner trust and security to be like, I can hold out, I can wait for something better.

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00:48:45,175.1317353 --> 00:49:01,85.1317353
Or I can, you know, whatever it is, just having that, or even if you accept it, you're like, okay, for now I'll do this, you know, for very black and white logical, you know, day, everyday life requirements, like even if it's a job or whatever, but like being hyper aware of, like, this is not for me.

391
00:49:01,300.1317353 --> 00:49:04,480.1317353
This cannot be a long term solution or X, Y, Z.

392
00:49:04,840.1317353 --> 00:49:19,80.1317353
Um, is that when you say the open energy centers versus the colored in, is that, that whatever it is that goes on there is magnified, like double, uh, does that go for every energy center? If it's like a clear, yeah, it sure does.

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00:49:19,130.1317353 --> 00:49:19,800.1317353
It sure does.

394
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And that's why, um, for another example, and I, every time I do workshops or I use someone as an example, I don't use a person that the person Like, for example, if it was like a group program.

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I would never use a person that is in the group program as an example, because everything is so personal, and so I try to always use myself, and in my content as well, and show, show an example of the body graph in my, my chart, like, because it's all so personal, you never know what's gonna be, um, too far for somebody.

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But for this example, I, uh, have an open head center, the one at the very, very top.

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And so this is all magnified because the head center, like each, each room, each energy center has a different theme.

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I kind of think of it like the front porch.

399
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Because I'm bringing in all these ideas, all these thoughts, all these feelings, all these messages, all this stuff from social media.

400
00:50:21,165.1317353 --> 00:50:25,825.1317353
Like, it's really important for me to draw boundaries around social media, because my head is open.

401
00:50:26,65.1317353 --> 00:50:31,545.1317353
So I'll just pull in all this stuff that I'm like, Ooh, this group program over here is doing this, maybe I should do that.

402
00:50:31,555.1327353 --> 00:50:36,185.1317353
Or maybe this is going on over here, maybe I should incorporate that in my business or my life.

403
00:50:36,465.1317353 --> 00:50:41,95.1317353
Oh, I should do this to be a better sister, a better wife, a better partner.

404
00:50:41,455.1317353 --> 00:50:42,985.1317353
And it's like, okay.

405
00:50:43,415.1317353 --> 00:50:51,165.1317353
I just dumped all this stuff in my head that I really have no business thinking about and it's all being amplified.

406
00:50:51,595.1317353 --> 00:51:05,115.1307353
And when you don't have, um, when you don't have the connections to kind of move it throughout your energy centers to allow the other energies to help you work it out, um, that's when you want to get around other people.

407
00:51:05,125.1317353 --> 00:51:09,545.1317353
So I try to get around other people that either have a colored in energy center.

408
00:51:10,0.1317353 --> 00:51:18,490.1307353
Um, that connects to my head so I can start to think through these things or, um, just voice these ideas and be like, Oh, that didn't sound so great.

409
00:51:18,490.1317353 --> 00:51:21,580.1307353
Anyway, it was just that going around for a long time.

410
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I was just giving it a lot of attention.

411
00:51:23,160.1317353 --> 00:51:25,60.1307353
So it seemed like it was important.

412
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That's when we have to, um, find these ways to dump out our cup.

413
00:51:32,890.1317353 --> 00:51:36,820.1317353
So to speak and rinse it out and be like, yeah, that wasn't, that wasn't it.

414
00:51:38,30.1317353 --> 00:51:40,100.1317353
And each energy center has a different theme.

415
00:51:40,100.1317353 --> 00:51:41,320.1317353
Each one is like that.

416
00:51:42,490.1317353 --> 00:51:42,820.1317353
Yeah.

417
00:51:42,880.1317353 --> 00:51:47,780.1317353
I totally, I have an open head as well, head and mouth or throat, whatever.

418
00:51:48,120.1307353 --> 00:51:59,130.1317353
And I just recently, uh, took Instagram off my phone because it's like, cause it's like, Everything could feel so vital.

419
00:51:59,610.1317353 --> 00:52:01,480.1317353
It, like, everything is so exciting.

420
00:52:01,620.1317353 --> 00:52:19,320.1317353
I get deeply inspired by So it doesn't feel, like, so bad at the moment, and it also doesn't feel, like, so, uh, insidious either, but, like, the once again, with the energy leaks and with the confusion and the overwhelm, it's like, oh, yeah, I was so close to it that it felt, like, so big.

421
00:52:19,550.1317353 --> 00:52:28,310.1317353
At the time and now being away from it, I do feel like because I only allow myself to access it on, desktop, I find myself like getting in and getting out.

422
00:52:28,320.1307353 --> 00:52:31,670.1317353
And I do miss like experiencing people there in this way.

423
00:52:31,720.1317353 --> 00:52:33,410.1312353
I've met amazing people on there.

424
00:52:33,410.1312353 --> 00:52:44,520.1307353
I love viewing art on there, but It's that knowledge of yourself and it's like, this is how I work and, you know, you know, just like the way some people are like, I'm more likely to be addicted to this.

425
00:52:44,610.1307353 --> 00:52:46,330.1307353
I should probably not play with that.

426
00:52:46,340.1307353 --> 00:53:02,400.1307353
You know, I have an addictive personality or this or that, um, yeah, it really helps you make more, informed, powerful decisions about how you're spending your time, which is the logical, tiny, actionable things, which blooms out and causes huge shifts in a life.

427
00:53:04,180.1307353 --> 00:53:04,920.1307353
Absolutely.

428
00:53:04,950.1307353 --> 00:53:10,150.1307353
And I mean, I love the, um, the phrase to create more than you consume.

429
00:53:10,635.1307353 --> 00:53:26,65.1307353
Because that is a huge piece of it, like having, having something that's open within you, and something that's echoing around, and it's really cool, like, we can, we can easily get sucked into social media because, yeah, creators are freaking good.

430
00:53:27,155.1307353 --> 00:53:46,565.1307353
We have learned, as a society, to create really compelling storytelling, really compelling videos and editing and, like, everything is so beautiful anymore, and being able to, Um, kind of throttle our attention and allow ourselves to enjoy a little bit, but not go over that line.

431
00:53:46,955.1307353 --> 00:53:54,695.1307353
It can be really tough, especially when we know, um, for example, I have my identity center that is open.

432
00:53:54,975.1307353 --> 00:54:05,820.1307353
So all the time, I think of it like, Like, uh, going into the fitting room at the thrift store or something and just putting on this coat and I'm like, Oh, I saw this from social media.

433
00:54:05,820.1307353 --> 00:54:08,380.1307353
Like, is this me? And then I'm like, No, it's kind of small.

434
00:54:08,380.1307353 --> 00:54:09,180.1307353
Like, I'll take it off.

435
00:54:09,500.1297353 --> 00:54:17,480.1307353
And being able to realize like, this is not part of who I am, or this is not filling the hole that I thought that it would.

436
00:54:18,280.1307353 --> 00:54:28,30.1307353
And I think that I've heard you reference this concept a couple times where we, um, we think it's a lot easier to say like, Oh, I have, I have social anxiety.

437
00:54:28,30.1307353 --> 00:54:33,40.1307353
I am an anxious person, or I am this person with this identity.

438
00:54:33,360.1307353 --> 00:54:39,745.1307353
But really, it's all these symptoms of something bigger, where, um, Instead of being socially anxious.

439
00:54:39,755.1307353 --> 00:54:44,125.1307353
It's I am sitting in existentialism all the time.

440
00:54:44,145.1307353 --> 00:54:45,955.1307353
I'm curious about the big questions.

441
00:54:45,955.1307353 --> 00:54:47,135.1297353
I'm looking for the answers.

442
00:54:47,135.1297353 --> 00:54:48,415.1307353
I'm looking for the themes.

443
00:54:48,725.1307353 --> 00:54:52,485.1307353
And in that way, it presents as social anxiety.

444
00:54:52,685.1307353 --> 00:54:58,905.1307353
It's easy to say, um, well, maybe it's not easy, but you could say as another example, I'm an alcoholic.

445
00:54:59,115.1307353 --> 00:55:06,855.1307353
Instead of saying my emotions are too big for me to feel my power is too big for me to feel and I can't.

446
00:55:07,240.1307353 --> 00:55:10,310.1307353
Live my life feeling like I'm squished into a box.

447
00:55:10,550.1307353 --> 00:55:13,400.1307353
So I'm dampening that emotion with alcohol.

448
00:55:13,640.1307353 --> 00:55:16,70.1307353
That's a lot different than saying I'm an alcoholic.

449
00:55:16,920.1307353 --> 00:55:18,140.1307353
Oh, powerful.

450
00:55:18,230.1297353 --> 00:55:20,90.1297353
So this powerful reframe.

451
00:55:20,160.1307353 --> 00:55:21,120.1307353
Oh my gosh.

452
00:55:22,220.1307353 --> 00:55:32,170.1307353
Oh, we should that's that's a whole series of like, fucking powerful reframes the lower frequency interpretation of something versus the bigger Oh, my goodness.

453
00:55:32,170.1307353 --> 00:55:32,790.1307353
Beautiful.

454
00:55:32,955.1307353 --> 00:55:36,455.1307353
Um, so, so, so good.

455
00:55:36,685.1307353 --> 00:55:46,615.1302353
Um, yeah, I, I think that, you know, as I, I mean, you know, always try to like, hold like, okay, how to like holding this conversation.

456
00:55:47,265.1302353 --> 00:55:53,215.1302353
I think about how even you, you're an expert in this.

457
00:55:53,415.1302353 --> 00:55:59,540.1302353
It doesn't make you immune to feeling All of the other things that happen.

458
00:55:59,540.1302353 --> 00:56:08,720.1302353
It's not like I'm a superhero now and I took the pill and I just know, yes, I know everything I do is perfect and I am imperfectly perfect as myself.

459
00:56:09,20.1302353 --> 00:56:14,210.1302353
It's like, but it feels like you have a shorter.

460
00:56:15,230.1302353 --> 00:56:30,340.1302353
Like a, a smaller weight, like it goes from like tsunami level, like up and down, up and down to like, it's, it makes it gentler and, and softer and quicker to come back to that self equilibrium.

461
00:56:30,740.1302353 --> 00:56:36,260.0302353
Um, and I think that that is, I mean, at the very minimal least.

462
00:56:36,630.1302353 --> 00:57:01,60.1302353
That I could say it speeds up an intentional life and a like a rightly lived and felt life, um, to be able to come back to your center more quickly and not waste five, 10 years of your life in this narrative that is just a cycle that you don't need to be repeating because you didn't know that you didn't know that you are not wrong.

463
00:57:03,480.1302353 --> 00:57:04,550.1302353
Oh, I think this is.

464
00:57:05,50.1302353 --> 00:57:54,475.1302353
This is a perfect way to conceptualize that, like if we visualize a wave, just a regular, like a sound wave or something, it can feel like that huge highs and huge lows and just crashing, and I'll speak from my experience on this one, where it feels like You're at the top of the world, you're getting everything done, you're so decisive, you're so action oriented, and then you start to lose that energy and momentum, or you feel like one thing happened to trigger you or to send you into the spiral, and that bottom part of the wave comes so much faster, and you just crash, and you're stuck in these emotions of like, Why do I feel these bad feelings? And no feeling is good or bad, because What we get to do with this wave and starting to even it out.

465
00:57:54,795.1302353 --> 00:58:07,345.1927353
We're we're more We're more so shooting for that neutral feeling as if it were a flat line of contentment of neutrality of groundedness and calmness.

466
00:58:07,585.1927353 --> 00:58:18,65.1927353
Whereas, yeah, we all feel the high highs and the low lows, but if we are respecting each part of that wave, like, Oh, I'm a little bit more productive at this time.

467
00:58:18,65.1927353 --> 00:58:23,565.1927353
And now I'm going down a little bit and I'm losing a little bit of energy.

468
00:58:23,595.1917353 --> 00:58:28,900.1927353
What can I do? And this I'm this part of the wave to respect where I'm at.

469
00:58:28,900.1927353 --> 00:58:30,760.1927353
And oh, now I'm feeling a little bit lower.

470
00:58:30,760.1927353 --> 00:58:34,650.1927353
I'm feeling less motivated or less momentum, as you might say.

471
00:58:35,0.1927353 --> 00:58:51,600.1917353
And Now I get to rest now I get to look at these feelings that are feeling like they're pretty big I might be a little bit more sad and this is my time to work through those to wait for some more Inspiration and then you start feeling that rising action again.

472
00:58:51,600.1927353 --> 00:59:03,960.1927353
You start feeling like okay I'm ready to I'm ready to jump back in and start planning things and Respecting each part of it leaves more room for contentment and realizing like, this is where I'm at right now.

473
00:59:03,990.1927353 --> 00:59:05,740.1927353
And that's perfectly fine.

474
00:59:05,740.1927353 --> 00:59:06,640.1927353
I'm not a mess.

475
00:59:06,870.1927353 --> 00:59:07,770.1927353
I'm not perfect.

476
00:59:08,400.1927353 --> 00:59:10,510.1927353
And everything else is in between too.

477
00:59:11,360.1927353 --> 00:59:12,800.1927353
I love the word respect in it.

478
00:59:12,800.1927353 --> 00:59:22,765.1927353
Like, and thereby if respecting each part of that wave, respecting each part of yourself, it's like, okay, when you find yourself in this Like not or whatever.

479
00:59:22,765.1927353 --> 00:59:49,600.1917353
It's like, okay, wait, how can I respect this part of me? How can I respect where I'm at right now? Um, and it kind of takes it off the table for being a good or bad or this or that it's like What is is and how do I show it respect and be with it? And as we know like it You allow yourself to feel your feelings and like, I mean, everything kind of eases from that point, even though it is difficult to do so often, but I love that.

480
00:59:49,610.1917353 --> 00:59:58,250.1922353
how do I, how can I respect each nuance part of me knowing that it's such an intricate constellation of who exactly I'm meant to be.

481
00:59:58,260.1922353 --> 01:00:10,825.1922353
So if I'm changing that lens of okay, this has, You know, presented me with XYZ issues and in my life because I've lived with this trait in this way.

482
01:00:11,65.1922353 --> 01:00:13,25.1912353
If I respected this trait about me.

483
01:00:13,540.1922353 --> 01:00:21,360.1922353
what would it look like in how I'm living my life, so, and, and this is the, I plan nothing and we, we end up here.

484
01:00:21,470.1922353 --> 01:00:26,940.1922353
So now I would love for you as we like come to wrap up this conversation, I could talk to you forever.

485
01:00:27,100.1922353 --> 01:00:31,570.1922353
I would love for you to share a little bit more about how you work with people and what you do.

486
01:00:31,580.1922353 --> 01:00:32,400.1922353
Cause that's right.

487
01:00:32,400.1922353 --> 01:00:33,730.1922353
Isn't that like the heart of.

488
01:00:34,290.1922353 --> 01:00:39,600.1922353
of what you're doing and what, what are you up to? Absolutely.

489
01:00:40,20.1922353 --> 01:00:41,940.1922353
I am all over Instagram.

490
01:00:41,980.1922353 --> 01:00:49,750.1922353
You'll see me, uh, posting all sorts of different things and, um, educational things, fun things, whatever, just to learn a little bit more about yourself.

491
01:00:49,780.1912353 --> 01:00:53,240.1912353
And my website has a lot of free resources as well.

492
01:00:53,300.1912353 --> 01:01:02,995.1922353
Um, as you kind of mentioned earlier, there's The free chart that you can run for your human design and that results in, um, a couple of PDFs.

493
01:01:03,135.1922353 --> 01:01:07,665.1922353
So you can get an introductory report that is super simple.

494
01:01:07,765.1922353 --> 01:01:11,745.1912353
Like you said, it's not, it's not gatekeeping the information.

495
01:01:11,745.1912353 --> 01:01:14,265.1922353
It's like, this is what is digestible for right now.

496
01:01:14,295.1932353 --> 01:01:15,635.1922353
And then you can go to the next thing.

497
01:01:15,635.1922353 --> 01:01:16,495.1922353
And then the next thing.

498
01:01:16,875.1922353 --> 01:01:21,285.1922353
And start to integrate it into your life with some, um, digestible steps.

499
01:01:21,755.1922353 --> 01:01:30,605.1922353
And then when people are ready, they can go into a 90 minute human design reading with me, which you can also book through my website or Instagram.

500
01:01:30,955.1912353 --> 01:01:36,505.1922353
And then following that, um, I do 60 minute strategy sessions to help with that integration.

501
01:01:36,775.1922353 --> 01:01:57,755.1922353
It's more of that, um, That, uh, goal oriented, like how do I take my lived experience and distill it into some actionable steps so that I can move my business forward? And I, I do like 60 minute strategy sessions just off the bat, like whenever someone's ready, but it has been.

502
01:01:58,165.1922353 --> 01:02:06,175.1922353
So beneficial to have the human design aspect first, or just share a little bit about your human design and the onboarding form.

503
01:02:06,475.1922353 --> 01:02:10,285.1922353
So I know where you're coming from and you don't get advice.

504
01:02:10,285.1922353 --> 01:02:12,695.1912353
It's like, Oh yeah, just hop right into it.

505
01:02:12,695.1922353 --> 01:02:13,975.1922353
Or like, just get started.

506
01:02:14,205.1922353 --> 01:02:16,925.1912353
Oh, well, that's not what your human design says you should do.

507
01:02:17,755.1912353 --> 01:02:20,325.1922353
Um, so being able to.

508
01:02:20,805.1922353 --> 01:02:27,55.1922353
First and foremost, get a full reading with human design and then learn more about your strategy.

509
01:02:27,115.1922353 --> 01:02:31,95.1912353
And then I also have really flexible mentorship options.

510
01:02:31,105.1922353 --> 01:02:44,890.1922353
So you can bundle calls or you can do the high touch, um, option with multiple calls a month, personalized resources, and Tuesday through Thursday telegram so we can chat, voice note, reflect on, share pictures.

511
01:02:44,890.1922353 --> 01:02:51,120.1922353
I have a client that just went to Portugal and she's like, I was thinking about my emotional wave, but also look at this castle.

512
01:02:53,560.1912353 --> 01:02:56,610.1912353
And so we get to stay in touch in a high touch way.

513
01:02:56,910.1922353 --> 01:03:00,750.1922353
It feels really supportive while you're integrating all of these things.

514
01:03:01,150.1922353 --> 01:03:04,300.1922353
Um, and then I also have some other things coming.

515
01:03:04,570.1922353 --> 01:03:13,700.1912353
So, little workshops, little resources, little, you know, uh, community and merch kind of things coming, so definitely keep an eye out.

516
01:03:13,980.1912353 --> 01:03:17,710.1922353
You're on, uh, Substack now too, right? I am now on some stack.

517
01:03:17,930.1922353 --> 01:03:23,340.1922353
So maybe we could, I haven't done this yet, but maybe we can do like each podcast episode.

518
01:03:23,360.1922353 --> 01:03:26,200.1922353
I have as a sub stack post as well.

519
01:03:26,410.1912353 --> 01:03:28,470.1922353
Maybe we can do a collaborator on this one.

520
01:03:28,470.1922353 --> 01:03:32,350.1922353
So you can find Sylvia on sub stack then.

521
01:03:32,380.1912353 --> 01:03:37,660.1922353
And then what's your, uh, what's your Instagram handle? That's at sylbella.

522
01:03:37,970.1922353 --> 01:03:40,810.1922353
co s y l b b e l a.

523
01:03:41,180.1922353 --> 01:03:41,650.1922353
co.

524
01:03:42,140.1922353 --> 01:03:43,920.1912353
And that's also my website.

525
01:03:44,690.1922353 --> 01:03:45,250.1922353
Yes.

526
01:03:45,260.1922353 --> 01:03:56,810.1912353
So please, if you, if your spidey senses are tingling and you're like, Oh my gosh, I have to know more, head to the website, download your, your charts and just dive into dive into yourself in that way.

527
01:03:56,810.1912353 --> 01:03:57,880.1922353
It is so.

528
01:03:58,175.1922353 --> 01:04:00,525.1922353
So amazing and rewarding and drink water.

529
01:04:04,965.1922353 --> 01:04:06,565.1922353
Oh, my God, or wine.

530
01:04:08,995.1922353 --> 01:04:09,625.1922353
Oh, man.

531
01:04:09,635.1922353 --> 01:04:11,125.1922353
Well, Sylvia, thank you so much.

532
01:04:11,125.1922353 --> 01:04:12,935.1912353
This has been an absolute joy.

533
01:04:13,25.1912353 --> 01:04:13,615.1922353
Thank you.

534
01:04:14,365.1922353 --> 01:04:15,165.1922353
Thank you.

535
01:04:15,305.1922353 --> 01:04:17,105.1912353
And I love, I love collaborating.

536
01:04:17,135.1922353 --> 01:04:19,585.1922353
I love hearing everybody's perspective on different things.

537
01:04:19,585.1922353 --> 01:04:21,865.1922353
So I'm always open to it.

538
01:04:21,955.1922353 --> 01:04:22,325.1922353
Love it.

539
01:04:23,575.0672353 --> 01:04:26,815.0672353
This has been an awkward sage production.